Closer, the movie

I finally watched "Closer" (Julia Roberts, Jude Law and Natalie Portman) last night. It is such a weird movie. I am not sure if I understood its totality although in parts I did get it. A lot of the things they've tackled happen in relationships... love in different degrees, obsession, jealousy, greed, lust, letting go, goodbyes, etc... but it's hard to understand what the director/writer's message is to its viewers. The storyline is quite simple but it makes you think very deeply about love and life. Well, maybe, that's what it's all about! It was made to help us question love, define it for ourselves, and to finally realize who we are, what we want, and how these realizations affect others we meet along the way.

Here's some things to think about:

• Julia's husband, the dermatologist, said that there are people, like Julia's character in the movie, who likes being unhappy no matter how much they deny it. Happines is right in front of them and yet they will choose something or someone that they know will make them unhappy. They gravitate to the unhappiness, depression, and the drama.
• Natalie: "I only leave someone when I don't love him anymore." Do we really get over that love? Isn't there always some kind of love that's left in our heart even after we break up or separate with our partner? Could she also mean that we should not leave someone we still love?
• What does love really mean? Why is it so hard to give sometimes when we ourselves want it?
• Is there such thing as unconditional love between lovers? Where do you draw the line between obsession, loving someone no matter what, and abuse?
• How many of us have fallen in love with someone we don't really know? Be together for a few years... break-up... then realize "do you really know who that person was?" You believe everything they tell you, and yet you find out things that surprise you about that person. DO you really know the person you're with right now?
• Forgive and forget. I wish it's that easy.
• We all are capable of deceit. What drives us to be that way?
• The movie ended the same way it started. Four desperate people, longing for love and yet running away from it. Makes me wonder: Do we really learn anything from past mistakes? If we do, why do we end up in the same situation we were in before? Is it fate or choice?

LIFE LESSON: you are your life's architect... but you have a supplier, engineer, contructor, workers, and government permits' department that just keep messing up with your perfect plan. Such is life!